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  MarkFinan: we're the barmy bradford army and we're gonna win the cup!!! 2-4 against chelsea. nobody scores 2 against chelsea let alone 4!!!! yessssssss 😅
Jan-24-15  Wayne Proudlove: Travis Bickle, why am I surprised that guy is involved in drugs?
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  Travis Bickle: *Sorry had to repost...

Here's 1 for Ernie...

Jan-24-15  cormier: An Iraqi Kurdish military official says that Peshmerga forces continue to advance and clear areas of Islamic State, with only a small percentage of Kurdish land remaining under the control of the militants.
Jan-24-15  HeMateMe: <Wayne Proudlove:>

don't you find the spoken word stuff a little boring, after five minutes?

Jan-24-15  cormier: Pope's Message for World Communications Day
"The experience of this relationship which "precedes" us enables the family to become the setting in which the most basic form of communication, which is prayer, is handed down." Vatican City, January 23, 2015

The following is the Vatican-provided text of the Holy Father's message for the 49th World Communications Day.

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Communicating the Family: A Privileged Place of Encounter with the Gift of Love

The family is a subject of profound reflection by the Church and of a process involving two Synods: the recent extraordinary assembly and the ordinary assembly scheduled for next October. So I thought it appropriate that the theme for the next World Communications Day should have the family as its point of reference. After all, it is in the context of the family that we first learn how to communicate. Focusing on this context can help to make our communication more authentic and humane, while helping us to view the family in a new perspective.

We can draw inspiration from the Gospel passage which relates the visit of Mary to Elizabeth (Lk 1:39-56). "When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the infant leaped in her womb, and Elizabeth, filled with the Holy Spirit cried out in a loud voice and said, ‘Most blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb’." (vv. 41-42)

This episode first shows us how communication is a dialogue intertwined with the language of the body. The first response to Mary’s greeting is given by the child, who leaps for joy in the womb of Elizabeth. Joy at meeting others, which is something we learn even before being born, is, in one sense, the archetype and symbol of every other form of communication. The womb which hosts us is the first "school" of communication, a place of listening and physical contact where we begin to familiarize ourselves with the outside world within a protected environment, with the reassuring sound of the mother’s heartbeat. This encounter between two persons, so intimately related while still distinct from each other, an encounter so full of promise, is our first experience of communication. It is an experience which we all share, since each of us was born of a mother.

Even after we have come into the world, in some sense we are still in a "womb", which is the family. A womb made up of various interrelated persons: the family is "where we learn to live with others despite our differences" (Evangelii Gaudium, 66). Notwithstanding the differences of gender and age between them, family members accept one another because there is a bond between them. The wider the range of these relationships and the greater the differences of age, the richer will be our living environment. It is this bond which is at the root of language, which in turn strengthens the bond. We do not create our language; we can use it because we have received it. It is in the family that we learn to speak our "mother tongue", the language of those who have gone before us. (cf. 2 Macc 7:25,27). In the family we realize that others have preceded us, they made it possible for us to exist and in our turn to generate life and to do something good and beautiful. We can give because we have received. This virtuous circle is at the heart of the family’s ability to communicate among its members and with others. More generally, it is the model for all communication.

The experience of this relationship which "precedes" us enables the family to become the setting in which the most basic form of communication, which is prayer, is handed down. When parents put their newborn children to sleep, they frequently entrust them to God, asking that he watch over them. When the children are a little older, parents help them to recite some simple prayers, thinking with affection of other people, such as grandparents, relatives, the sick and suffering, and all those in need of God’s help. It was in our families that the majority of us learned the religious dimension ofcommunication, which in the case of Christianity is permeated with love, the love that God bestows upon us and which we then offer to others.

Jan-24-15  cormier: In the family, we learn to embrace and support one another, to discern the meaning of facial expressions and moments of silence, to laugh and cry together with people who did not choose one other yet are so important to each other. This greatly helps us to understand the meaning of communication as recognizing and creating closeness. When we lessen distances by growing closer and accepting one another, we experience gratitude and joy. Mary’s greeting and the stirring of her child are a blessing for Elizabeth; they are followed by the beautiful canticle of the Magnificat, in which Mary praises God’s loving plan for her and for her people. A "yes" spoken with faith can have effects that go well beyond ourselves and our place in the world. To "visit" is to open doors, not remaining closed in our little world, but rather going out to others. So too the family comes alive as it reaches beyond itself; families who do so communicate their message of life and communion, giving comfort and hope to more fragile families, and thus build up the Church herself, which is the family of families. More than anywhere else, the family is where we daily experience our own limits and those of others, the problems great and small entailed in living peacefully with others. A perfect family does not exist. We should not be fearful of imperfections, weakness or even conflict, but rather learn how to deal with them constructively. The family, where we keep loving one another despite our limits and sins, thus becomes a school of forgiveness. Forgiveness is itself a process of communication. When contrition is expressed and accepted, it becomes possible to restore and rebuild the communication which broke down. A child who has learned in the family to listen to others, to speak respectfully and to express his or her view without negating that of others, will be a force for dialogue and reconciliation in society. When it comes to the challenges of communication, families who have children with one or more disabilities have much to teach us. A motor, sensory or mental limitation can be a reason for closing in on ourselves, but it can also become, thanks to the love of parents, siblings, and friends, an incentive to openness, sharing and ready communication with all. It can also help schools, parishes and associations to become more welcoming and inclusive of everyone.

In a world where people often curse, use foul language, speak badly of others, sow discord and poison our human environment by gossip, the family can teach us to understand communication as a blessing. In situations apparently dominated by hatred and violence, where families are separated by stone walls or the no less impenetrable walls of prejudice and resentment, where there seem to be good reasons for saying "enough is enough", it is only by blessing rather than cursing, by visiting rather than repelling, and by accepting rather than fighting, that we can break the spiral of evil, show that goodness is always possible, and educate our children to fellowship.

Today the modern media, which are an essential part of life for young people in particular, can be both a help and a hindrance to communication in and between families. The media can be a hindrance if they become a way to avoid listening to others, to evade physical contact, to fill up every moment of silence and rest, so that we forget that "silence is an integral element of communication; in its absence, words rich in content cannot exist." (BENEDICT XVI, Message for the 2012 World Communications Day). The media can help communication when they enable people to share their stories, to stay in contact with distant friends, to thank others or to seek their forgiveness, and to open the door to new encounters. By growing daily in our awareness of the vital importance of encountering others, these "new possibilities", we will employ technology wisely, rather than letting ourselves be dominated by it. Here too, parents are the primary educators, but they cannot be left to their own devices. The Christian community is called to help them in teaching children how to live in a media environment in a way consonant with the dignity of the human person and service of the common good.

Jan-24-15  cormier: The great challenge facing us today is to learn once again how to talk to one another, not simply how to generate and consume information. The latter is a tendency which our important and influential modern communications media can encourage. Information is important, but it is not enough. All too often things get simplified, different positions and viewpoints are pitted against one another, and people are invited to take sides, rather than to see things as a whole. The family, in conclusion, is not a subject of debate or a terrain for ideological skirmishes. Rather, it is an environment in which we learn to communicate in an experience of closeness, a setting where communication takes place, a "communicating community". The family is a community which provides help, which celebrates life and is fruitful. Once we realize this, we will once more be able to see how the family continues to be a rich human resource, as opposed to a problem or an institution in crisis. At times the media can tend to present the family as a kind of abstract model which has to be accepted or rejected, defended or attacked, rather than as a living reality. Or else a grounds for ideological clashes rather than as a setting where we can all learn what it means to communicate in a love received and returned. Relating our experiences means realizing that our lives are bound together as a single reality, that our voices are many, and that each is unique.

Families should be seen as a resource rather than as a problem for society. Families at their best actively communicate by their witness the beauty and the richness of the relationship between man and woman, and between parents and children. We are not fighting to defend the past. Rather, with patience and trust, we are working to build a better future for the world in which we live.

Jan-24-15  Wayne Proudlove: HeMateMe, sorry, what spoken word stuff? Patti Smith? No, I don't find it boring, she's an awesome wordsmith. I'm a big reader so my taste leans toward the literate. Although, not too wordy--I'm also into matters of the heart and emotional intelligence.
Jan-24-15  Wayne Proudlove: I suppose you could say I don't like things that wear their intellectualism on their sleeve. Like Stereolab, for example, with Marxist lyrics--I don't really go in for that kind of thing. I'm old-fashioned, classical, canonical...the well-structured, the well-crafted.
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  MarkFinan: Cornier.. I like you bro, I really do. But all this biblical stuff belongs on THE LIST!!!!

Lol. Sorry mate.

Jan-24-15  Wayne Proudlove: I love to see Cormier's Catholic posts!
They make me happy and I doubt I'm alone. There's tons of room on here, put up James Joyce's "Ulysses" if you want.
Jan-24-15  savagerules: I don't know, when he posts the prophetic utterances of some woman who purports to be reporting from Mary I read it just to see if it actually might contain a message from above for the cure for cancer, solution to Islamic radicalism, what's the best opening move in chess, if all Rogoff page posters will end up in hell etc. Thus far no relevations such as these but who knows?
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  Travis Bickle: 1970 - Ernie Banks Cubs Home Runs 498, 499, 500!!

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  Travis Bickle: Ernie singing the Cubs song...

Jan-24-15  cormier: Kurdish forces have fired rockets into Mosul for the first time since Islamic State militants overran the northern Iraqi city last summer, Kurdish military sources said on Saturday.
Jan-24-15  HeMateMe: Has it really been 40 years since Queen released the album Sheer Heart Attack, 1974?


Queens's final album Made In Heaven, 1995


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  waustad: Sharapova vs Bouchard might get a different gender mix for the viewing public than is typical for women's tennis. With Dementieva and Dulko choosing the mommy track and Kournikova doing whatever she does, new faces were bound to crop up. What amuses me is that the buzz from Australia seems to be women going gaga over Sharapova's boyfriend, Dimitrov. I've long realized that many women are every bit as shallow as men are, but usually get better press.
Jan-24-15  Jim Bartle: Australian Open discussion on the Hans-Joachim Federer page.
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  reidben24: I'm relatively new to chess, is 64 points on a par 68 guess the move thing good?
Jan-25-15  Wayne Proudlove: waustad,
I would expect Sharapova to have a handsome boyfriend, she's very attractive. A bit gangly maybe, but I wouldn't kick her away from coffee and the newspaper at the kitchen table.
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  zanzibar: <CG> is the big tent... it's got 'em all!
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  waustad: <jim bartel>Thanks for the tip.
Jan-25-15  Wayne Proudlove: Frank Sinatra, "That's Life":
Jan-25-15  Wayne Proudlove: Do you guys know this one?

Margaret Atwood, "An Attempted Solution For Chess Problems"

My younger sister at the chessboard
ponders her next move
the arrangement of her empire
(crosslegged on the floor)

while below her in the cellar
the embroidered costumes, taken
from her mother's storage trunks
and lined against the walls
lose their stiff directions in
the instant that she hesitates
above the armies

The shadows of the chessmen
stretch, fall across her: she
is obsessed by history;
each wooden totem rises
like the cairn of an event


Outside the windows of this room
the land unrolls without landmark
a meshing of green on green, the inner
membrane of the gaping moment
opening around the sun
that is a burnt hole in the sky

The house recoils
from the brightened vacancy
of leaves, into itself: the cellar
darkness looming with archaic
silver clocks, brocaded chairs, the fading echoes
of a hunting horn.

The white king moves,
by memories and procedures
and corners
no final ending but
a stalemate
forcing her universe to his
geographies: the choice imposes
vestiges of black and white
ruled squares on the green landscape

and her failed solution
has planted the straight rows
of an armoured wood patrolled by wooden
kings and queens
hunting the mechanical unicorn
under a coin-round sun

Her step on the stairs
sounds through the concrete mazes

In her cellar
the mailed costumes rustle
waiting to be put on.

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